He Said When I was dating my now wife, inevitably there came a time when I had to meet her parents. Her parents are divorced which meant I had to meet two different sets at two different times. Let me replay the meeting of her dad. My future wife had just told me, “I’m falling… Continue reading He Said / She Said – Meet the Parents

The next morning was Thanksgiving and I got up early to get the cooking started.  As I made my coffee, buttered the bird, chopped, sautéed and minced; I watched my phone.  I watched for it to “bing”” with Dimples on the other end.  I knew he would not text me after what had transpired last… Continue reading Ties That Bind

He Said A few years ago, I overheard a conversation going on between my physical therapist and another gentleman discussing the appeal of a woman on television. The gentleman said you may have heard the expression, “Beauty is skin deep but ugly goes down to the friggin’ bone!” It was hilarious because here was this… Continue reading He Said / She Said – Laws of Attraction

Valentine’s Day.  The day of love.  The day that you and your sweetheart rekindle your love, have quality time together and bring back to the surface all the reasons why you are in love with each other in the first place.  I call bullshit! Dear Tiny Heart of Mine, There is not just one day designated to matters… Continue reading Valentine’s Day – A Letter to My Heart

There’s a lot to be said for equality in a relationship. And compromise. And discussion. And understanding. But all of these are grounded in mutual respect, and that element must come first. Mutual respect in relationships means having conversations about plans – not making them on the fly without consultation when they involve the other… Continue reading Freedom Friday – Make Yourself a Priority

Dimples veered off the highway onto an exit towards the restaurant and I was so upset.  Upset that he didn’t realize how important just some quality time with him was to me, upset that he basically kidnapped me to take me to his mother’s house without really telling me what his plan was and upset… Continue reading Family Ties

The next few days I was having a very hard time at home.  This was the period of troubled times in my house.  I had had a headache for what felt like eternity, but it was probably a little over a week.  It was like a sinus headache and a migraine all rolled up into… Continue reading Troubled Times

He Said “What if she wants you to kiss her? Well, then I guess I’m just gonna have to kiss her. Amanda’s no minor leaguer who’ll be swept off her feet by your amateur lips. Well, I just think maybe… you should consider whether or not you can deliver a kiss that kills. What, you… Continue reading He Said / She Said – First Kisses

He Said “What if she wants you to kiss her? Well, then I guess I’m just gonna have to kiss her. Amanda’s no minor leaguer who’ll be swept off her feet by your amateur lips. Well, I just think maybe… you should consider whether or not you can deliver a kiss that kills. What, you… Continue reading He Said / She Said – First Kiss

Everyone has emotional baggage – it’s the stuff of living that we carry around with us, like our beliefs about ourselves after we fuck something up. If a relationship ends badly, we often take the things our partner said or did to us as the ‘real’ truth about who we are, and we carry those… Continue reading Freedom Friday – Transcending Our Baggage

The next day I knew this was all still swirling on his mind and I didn’t want to miss a chance to spend some time with him, so I offered to make a giant tray of eggplant parmesan and meet him at his parents house.  He was thankful and appreciative and I was making it… Continue reading Talkative

Dimples and I were not the kind of couple that needed each other every minute of every day.  Don’t get me wrong, I would have spent every day with him, but we were both grown ups, with a ton of things on our plates and we were busy.  We didn’t see each other every single… Continue reading Stuff